Reality and romance

I love romance. It’s my favourite genre by far. Still, there are times when I shake my head at a book or two. See, once in a while, romance borders on the…well, unrealistic.

The hero can definitely be over the top. His hair is perfect, his teeth are perfect and his smile can make females swoon from miles away. Sometimes perfection itself is not enough. I’ve read books where he was ‘incredibly male’, whatever that means.

Other times the love is over the top. There are love stories where the hero and heroine despise each other the entire book but magically come to passionate, desperate love in the last two pages of the book. Really?

But the worse infraction by far are those sex scenes. I’m all for imagination and trying new things but some of the scenarios I’ve read made me cringe–and I’m pretty sure that wasn’t the reaction the author wanted. I’ll leave alone the fact that no one in a romance seems to have any sort of realistic sexual issue, some of the situations made me wonder if it was physically possible at all.

Can two people actually have sex on a horse? Really? Because I’ve ridden a horse and I’ll tell you I had trouble simply staying seated on the animal. How come no one ever slips during hot, steamy shower sex but I barely make it out of mine alive in the mornings? Should I mention how dirty pirates were (no tooth brushes!)? How could sex with them be even remotely appealing?

If you’re interested, here‘s the article that got me ranting about the topic. A fantastic read by All About Romance.

What do you think? Is it realistic or do we say, eh, and just believe?




10 thoughts on “Reality and romance

  1. This post gave me a good chuckle 😀

    I am happy to go with the flow for most romance, for example, with the pirates, I don’t want to imagine a hero being all grubby and realistic for the times. I don’t mind imagining that he somehow magically found toothpaste and soap! Cosmetic things like that, I am happy to just let go.

    But yeah, the relationship itself I am less likely to forgive if they just suddenly find they love each other at the end. It needs to feel natural, rather than forced, or I just can’t handle it.

    And, seriously, a horse? 😀 Not sure I’d even want to attempt it!

  2. I don’t read much romance but I do think that things should be realistic within a certain parameter.

    And, really, a horse? I nearly choked on my coffee when I read that!

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