I got a bad review. Or rather my book did.
Everyone gets bad reviews. I know that.
Weeeeelll…my head knows it. My heart has trouble remembering. It’s a pretty easy thing to forget when you get that nasty review.
Dealing with a bad review isn’t easy. Though everyone has their own way, I thought I’d share what has worked for me.
1. Writing about it. It might sound ironic but writing about painful stuff helps me. I either journal about it or I write it into a blog post :-). Writing is cathartic and helps me get it out.
2. Sending out positive energy. I find that if I send it out, it comes back to me. So, when I need support, I try to send it out. When I need a kind shoulder, I try to be kind to someone around me. If nothing else, at least I feel better about myself.
3. Working out. We have this punching man downstairs and these great boxing gloves. I go down there and punch that guy in the face until all that anger and frustration is gone. Or I go to the elliptical and run or I head to the gym. Anger is a great motivator. I can get amazing work outs thanks to those nasty reviews.
4. Sharing with other authors. I know there are trolls online but I have found amazingly supportive people in the web. I can go to them and share my misery. Odds are, they’ve had a bad review and can identify with me. If not, they’re Nora Roberts…no, wait she’s had bad reviews as well.
5. Kissing my doggies. They don’t care if I’ve get bad reviews or bad hair, they love me unconditionally and trust me. I can kiss those furry heads and tell them all my troubles and they just listen. No judgement.
6. Working at DayJob. I work with the public. Within five minutes of being at work, I’ll have an impossible demand; within ten, someone will be shouting at me. I’ll come back to my computer glad that at least that review was written and not shouted.
A nice list, with nice items. They hurt no one and are good, mature choices.
What follows is a more immature list. Choices that, so far, I’ve managed to avoid. Please notice the ‘so far’. The next bad review will probably send me over the edge.
* Throw away the computer.
* Send the author of that review a nasty email calling them every name in the book and a few I’ve just invented.
* Start a Voodoo doll.
* Go to Tibet and join a monastery.
* Take up Wicca and conjure up a spell. Or two.
* Give up writing and take up playing the banjo.
Absolutely ridiculous list. Time for some maturity. Let’s have some links.
What about you? Have you had a bad review? How did you handle it? What helped? Any other items you’d add to the ‘immature’ list?
How about some cute baby animals? They always make me feel better…